Birthday Month Reflections

August 16, 2024

Another year around the sun

Looking back over the year and doing a retrospective over what’s gone on is important to do on regular intervals. I like doing it on my birthday because it happens every year, so I am very clearly reminded of the date. It’s a good time to look back and see where I was last year, what our sales looked like, what our team looked like, how many people we had in our firm, how many people were working with us that maybe aren’t working with us anymore, or how many new people have we added to our team since last year. It’s a good place to have a mile marker to see kind of where I’m at. Also, I want to see how I'm doing on my numbers. How are the finances going in my business? Am I growing or staying flat? Is there something that I can do to get out of that plateau? Is there something that might be missing that I know needs to happen, but I just haven’t gotten around to it because I’m too busy doing urgent things that aren't important? So that’s something that's really important to handle and take a look back, take a deep breath, and say, "OK, next year I’m going to do this." Tomorrow is the first day of the next year.



The other thing that’s important to do is to get your numbers as far as your physical side. Make sure you’ve gone and gotten your annual health check. Make sure your blood pressure is in check, make sure your cholesterol is in check, make sure all of your sugar and all the other key indicators of good health are under control or are within the numbers that are healthy. It’s one of those things that can be very easily prevented to stay ahead of the game, and it will let you know if you’re sliding into a danger zone.

It’s time to make some changes and adjustments. So, you want to make sure that you look at those signposts that come along the way and tell you that you need to make these changes in your life.


You should also take into account how your relationships with your loved ones were last year to this year. How would you get along with your spouse if you’re married or your significant other if you have a partner? How do you get along with them? What is your relationship like? Have you developed a deeper trust? Do you know your partner better than you did before? Have you learned new things about their personality, good and bad? And do you embrace both the good and the bad? Those are things to look at to see which way you’re going in your interpersonal life.


How about your kids? You may have small kids or adult kids. What’s your relationship with them like? It’s important to see how you are handling the relationships with your adult children. Are you their mentor, are you their sounding board? Do they feel comfortable being able to talk to you and tell you the issues that they’re facing and to let you know, “hey, I have this problem and I know you’re going to tell me the way it is and no, I can’t trust anybody else to tell me the truth.” So, you want to be that sounding board and you want to do it in a way that is loving but yet honest. Make sure that you can be there for your adult children like that. Develop that relationship by being a sounding board, listening without judging, and taking a deep breath before you respond when they tell you something that you just get very frustrated about.


For your young children, if they’re little, you want to be their hero. You want to make sure that they know that they’re safe with you, that you are the person who will always have their back. Yes, sometimes you need to be the person who issues punishment, but it’s because you love them, and you want them to grow in a way that is not going to create problems for them in the future.

For the hardest part, the teenagers, you’ve got to thread a thin line because you want to be there for them, you want to let them know that you are open to their ideas, you’re open to their questions, you’re open to them pushing the boundaries but at the same time, you have to put the boundaries, you have to have the guardrails to say, “Look, you’re not quite an adult yet, you can do certain things, but here’s the parameters you need to stay within.” They’re not going to show you, but once they’ve developed these good habits, of following healthy parameters, they’re going to be thankful that these systems were introduced to them and became part of their day-to-day life.


So, not to get too sentimental, but I hope that you’ll take this month and share my birthday by taking a retrospective of what’s gone on in your life in the past year, what’s been the highs, and lows, to embrace the good as a blessing and the bad as a lesson. You're never at a loss as long as you’re learning from whatever problem arises. You only learn again.  Reach out to me in Laredo, Texas for asset protection, estate planning, probate and business formation. Until next time!

January 17, 2025
As we step into the new year, I find myself reflecting on the countless entrepreneurs, professionals, and business owners I’ve worked with throughout my career. Helping clients mold a shield of protection around their assets has been one of the most rewarding aspects of my practice. Time and time again, I’ve witnessed that success isn’t reserved for geniuses, nor does it require a fancy degree. The secret lies in action, strategy, and discipline—traits anyone can cultivate to achieve and maintain wealth. The Myth of Instant Wealth How often have we heard someone say, “When I win the lottery, I’ll finally be set”? It’s a common refrain, but let’s examine the reality. Imagine winning $10 million in the lottery. After choosing the lump sum option and paying taxes, you might walk away with only a fraction of that—perhaps $2 million. Without a solid financial plan, it’s no surprise that many lottery winners end up broke within a few years. True wealth isn’t about luck or flashy possessions. It’s about what you do with your resources and how you protect them. If you look around your community, the truly wealthy aren’t necessarily the ones with the biggest houses or newest cars. They’re often the ones who’ve taken calculated risks, lived within their means, and built unglamorous but steady businesses. These individuals mold the clay they’re given, creating shields of protection around their assets that ensure their financial stability for generations. The Trap of Looking Rich We’ve all seen it—the big house, luxury car, and designer wardrobe. But appearances can be deceiving. Many who look wealthy are drowning in debt, spending more than they earn, and chasing the illusion of success. As my wife lovingly calls it, Dickersonism #7: “Looking rich does not MAKE you rich.” True wealth is built on a foundation of solid, income-generating assets, not consumables. Falling into the trap of “keeping up with the Joneses” (or Kardashians) often leads to financial instability and missed opportunities to create lasting wealth. The Cost of Inaction One of the greatest obstacles to wealth and protection is inaction. Henry Ford famously said, “If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you can’t. Either way, you’re right.” Inaction is the path of least resistance, but it’s also the path to missed opportunities and unfulfilled potential. Some hesitate out of fear or over-analysis, a condition I call “analysis paralysis.” It’s easy to get caught up in what could go wrong, but this mindset keeps you stagnant. Every successful person I’ve worked with has one thing in common: they took action. They understood the risks but focused on the rewards, moving forward despite uncertainty. Setting Your Course for 2025 If you haven’t taken steps to mold your financial future, now is the time. Ask yourself: Where do you want to be a year from now? In five years? In ten? Define your goals and begin building the path to reach them. Just as importantly, protect what you’ve built. Not having a plan to shield your assets is like running exposed electrical wiring—sooner or later, you’ll face unnecessary risks. A board-certified estate planning attorney can help you design a plan to safeguard your wealth, ensuring it stays secure for you and your loved ones. Take Control of Your Future Success doesn’t just happen—it’s molded. Listen to trusted advisors, but remember that the final decisions are yours to make. Clarify your vision, take bold steps, and build the life you’ve always dreamed of. At The J.M. Dickerson Law Firm, we’re here to guide you every step of the way. Whether in person, by appointment, or via Zoom, we’re committed to helping you create a legacy of success and security. Contact us today, we can help! South Texas: 956-791-5422 Central Texas: 830-302-4577 Let’s make 2025 your year of action, growth, and protection.
December 20, 2024
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December 13, 2024
As the end of the year approaches, it’s easy to feel the weight of unfinished tasks and the hustle of the holiday season. Between wrapping up work projects, preparing for family gatherings, and making plans for the future, this time of year can feel overwhelming. But amidst the busyness lies a valuable opportunity—the chance to press reset and prepare for a fresh start. The New Year offers a clean slate, making it the perfect time to reflect, reorganize, and refocus your goals. By dedicating some time to the right activities now, you can set yourself up for success in the months ahead. Here are four key steps to help you start the New Year on solid footing. Step 1: Reflect on the Past Year As the calendar flips to a new year, many of us naturally find ourselves looking back at the previous 12 months. This is the perfect moment to assess your professional and personal accomplishments, challenges, and growth. Ask yourself: • What were my biggest successes this year? • What goals did I miss, and why? • What strategies or habits worked well for me? • Where can I improve moving forward? Reflection isn’t just about identifying wins and losses; it’s about understanding the “why” behind them. Seek feedback from colleagues, mentors, or trusted peers to gain new perspectives. The more honest and thorough your evaluation, the more valuable it will be as a foundation for future planning. Step 2: Create a Game Plan for the Year Ahead Reflection is only the beginning. To make real progress, you need a clear and actionable plan for the year ahead. Start by defining your big-picture goal for the next 12 months. What’s the most important outcome you want to achieve? Once you have that, break it down into smaller, measurable objectives. For example, if your goal is to expand your business, your smaller objectives might include increasing marketing efforts, attending networking events, or launching a new service. Outline the steps needed to achieve each objective and set realistic timelines for completion. Revisit your goals regularly—at least quarterly—to ensure you’re staying on track or to adjust for any changes in your circumstances. Flexibility is key to maintaining momentum throughout the year. Step 3: Declutter Your Inbox An overflowing email inbox can be a constant source of low-grade stress. Ending the year with a streamlined and organized inbox can give you a fresh sense of control as you head into January. Here’s how to tackle it: • Respond immediately to any urgent or unresolved messages. • Delete emails that are no longer relevant. • Unsubscribe from newsletters or mailing lists you no longer find useful. • Create folders and filters to better organize incoming messages moving forward. To keep your inbox manageable, schedule regular cleanups throughout the year. Whether monthly or quarterly, these maintenance sessions will prevent clutter from building up again. Step 4: Knock Out Small Tasks The small, unfinished tasks lingering on your to-do list can be more draining than you realize. Use this time to cross off as many as possible before the New Year begins. • File paperwork that’s been piling up. • Respond to emails you’ve been avoiding. • Wrap up loose ends on ongoing projects. Completing these small but nagging tasks will give you a sense of accomplishment and free up your mental bandwidth for bigger goals in the New Year. Starting January with a clean slate will allow you to hit the ground running. Your Fresh Start A new year is a chance to realign your priorities, set meaningful goals, and approach your work with renewed focus. By reflecting on the past year, setting actionable goals, decluttering your space, and tying up loose ends, you’ll create the foundation for a successful year ahead. Whether you spread these steps out over a few weeks or tackle them all in one day, the most important thing is to commit to the process. A little effort now can make a big difference in how you start the year—and how you finish it. Here’s to making the most of your fresh start!
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