Failing to adequately protect your children has consequences

August 2, 2024

Your children need you to think estate planning through

If you have kids, they’re probably the most important thing in your life. In fact, children are arguably the most important reason to put together an estate plan with the help of a professional. The reality is that having children dramatically complicates the estate planning process. Particularly if you have children from multiple spouses, or if you and your spouse have separated or divorced. It’s critical to ensure that your children are properly provided for, and that an appropriate guardian - of your choice - is named in your estate plan. What happens if you don’t take these important steps?

 

When you use a DIY resource or online tools, these options typically don’t have the appropriate provisions for guardianship and allocation of financial resources for your children. They may lack any mention of this altogether, or they may take a “one size fits all” approach that simply doesn’t apply to your family or doesn’t address your situation. When this happens, the decision of what to do with the kids is left up to the courts.

 

Do you really want to trust a court with the question of who will raise your children? If you need an example of exactly how devastating this can be, take a look at the case of Michelle and Cary Baker. These All-American parents had a tragic car accident, which their three little boys survived - but they didn’t. Court documents have shown that Michelle and Cary had talked about naming guardians for their boys, but they simply hadn’t gotten around to putting their decision in writing. After all, we always think we have more time, and they were healthy, happy adults with three small boys at home. Estate planning is often something we think of later in life, so it’s not surprising they didn’t feel any particular urgency to create their plan.



Unfortunately, the Bakers had no idea how much conflict would be involved in naming a guardian for their boys. In the four years following their death, thousands of court documents have been filed in their case, nine lawyers have been involved, and the costs have totaled in the tens - or hundreds - of thousands of dollars. In the meantime, the boys went into the foster care system for a short time, while police worked to locate family members. Would you want your kids going to strangers after a tragedy like that? When family was finally located, the boys went to live with one of their aunts, who allegedly prevented the rest of the family from having any contact with the boys. Not only were their parents tragically ripped away from them, but they were denied the comfort of the rest of their family, too! In the end, the Court will be responsible for appointing a legal guardian for the boys. This person may or may not be the person the Bakers would have chosen. They’ll never have a chance to say who they want to raise their kids, or have any say at all in their children’s lives - because they thought they’d have more time, so they didn’t put together a plan. Don’t be be like the Bakers.


Your children are too important to trust to the court system, or to risk on DIY resources that may not adequately arrange for the protection of your children. Take the fate of your children in your own hands, and craft a detailed estate plan to ensure they’re protected and loved the way you want them to be.


If you have questions about taking care of your children and having adequate estate planning protection, give our office a call at and contact us today to discuss further by calling 956-791-5422 in Laredo.

April 11, 2025
By Joseph Michael Dickerson, Board-Certified Estate Planning Attorney Let’s set the record straight: you don’t need a mansion in Beverly Hills, a fleet of exotic cars, or a rare wine cellar to justify having an estate plan. If you’re a hardworking Texan with a home, a savings account, and people you care about—you need one. I’ve had countless clients ask me, “Do I really need an estate plan?” And my answer is always the same: Yes. You absolutely do. Why? Because estate planning isn’t about how much you have—it’s about what happens to what you do have. It’s about creating certainty, avoiding chaos, and making life easier for the people you love most. W hat Is an “Estate,” Really? Let’s demystify the word. Your estate is simply everything you own when you pass away. That could be a modest home, a truck, a retirement account, and a few family heirlooms. It could also be a business, investments, or real estate. Whether your estate is simple or complex, it still needs to be managed—and without a plan, the government and the courts will step in to do it for you. I’ve seen what happens when folks leave things to chance. Court involvement, higher attorney’s fees, delays, disputes among family members. And all of it could’ve been avoided with a well-drafted estate plan. No Plan = Big Problems If you pass away without a plan in Texas, the legal system doesn’t just shrug and walk away. It steps in—and often in ways that can surprise and burden your family. For example, your loved ones may be required to go through dependent administration, a court-supervised probate process that’s expensive, slow, and stressful. They may need to obtain a bond, appear in court multiple times, or hire multiple professionals to sort through things. It can drag on for months—or years. And if you’ve got a blended family, things get even more complicated. Did you know that in some cases, your stepchildren could inherit part of your estate—including rights to the family home—if you don’t have a plan? That could leave your surviving spouse in a legal bind, unable to sell or refinance without their consent. I’ve seen this happen, and it’s heartbreaking—but it’s also entirely preventable. Estate Planning Is an Act of Love Let’s be clear: estate planning isn’t just a legal process—it’s a gift to your family. It gives them clarity, direction, and peace during a time of grief. It saves them money. It avoids conflict. And it gives you peace of mind knowing that your wishes will be honored and your legacy protected. Texas law actually makes things easier for families with a solid plan. There are streamlined options like independent or summary administration—but only if you set things up properly ahead of time. That’s where the guidance of an experienced estate planning attorney makes all the difference. The Bottom Line You don’t need to be rich to need an estate plan. You just need to care about what happens to the people and things you leave behind. Estate planning is about making smart, thoughtful decisions now so that your family doesn’t have to make difficult, expensive decisions later. It’s about putting a plan in writing while you’re alive and well, so that your wishes—not the state’s—are the ones that matter when the time comes. If you haven’t created an estate plan yet, I encourage you: don’t wait. This is one of the most important steps you can take to protect your family, your assets, and your legacy. Let’s get your affairs in order—so you can get back to living with confidence.
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December 13, 2024
As the end of the year approaches, it’s easy to feel the weight of unfinished tasks and the hustle of the holiday season. Between wrapping up work projects, preparing for family gatherings, and making plans for the future, this time of year can feel overwhelming. But amidst the busyness lies a valuable opportunity—the chance to press reset and prepare for a fresh start. The New Year offers a clean slate, making it the perfect time to reflect, reorganize, and refocus your goals. By dedicating some time to the right activities now, you can set yourself up for success in the months ahead. Here are four key steps to help you start the New Year on solid footing. Step 1: Reflect on the Past Year As the calendar flips to a new year, many of us naturally find ourselves looking back at the previous 12 months. This is the perfect moment to assess your professional and personal accomplishments, challenges, and growth. Ask yourself: • What were my biggest successes this year? • What goals did I miss, and why? • What strategies or habits worked well for me? • Where can I improve moving forward? Reflection isn’t just about identifying wins and losses; it’s about understanding the “why” behind them. Seek feedback from colleagues, mentors, or trusted peers to gain new perspectives. The more honest and thorough your evaluation, the more valuable it will be as a foundation for future planning. Step 2: Create a Game Plan for the Year Ahead Reflection is only the beginning. To make real progress, you need a clear and actionable plan for the year ahead. Start by defining your big-picture goal for the next 12 months. What’s the most important outcome you want to achieve? Once you have that, break it down into smaller, measurable objectives. For example, if your goal is to expand your business, your smaller objectives might include increasing marketing efforts, attending networking events, or launching a new service. Outline the steps needed to achieve each objective and set realistic timelines for completion. Revisit your goals regularly—at least quarterly—to ensure you’re staying on track or to adjust for any changes in your circumstances. Flexibility is key to maintaining momentum throughout the year. Step 3: Declutter Your Inbox An overflowing email inbox can be a constant source of low-grade stress. Ending the year with a streamlined and organized inbox can give you a fresh sense of control as you head into January. Here’s how to tackle it: • Respond immediately to any urgent or unresolved messages. • Delete emails that are no longer relevant. • Unsubscribe from newsletters or mailing lists you no longer find useful. • Create folders and filters to better organize incoming messages moving forward. To keep your inbox manageable, schedule regular cleanups throughout the year. Whether monthly or quarterly, these maintenance sessions will prevent clutter from building up again. Step 4: Knock Out Small Tasks The small, unfinished tasks lingering on your to-do list can be more draining than you realize. Use this time to cross off as many as possible before the New Year begins. • File paperwork that’s been piling up. • Respond to emails you’ve been avoiding. • Wrap up loose ends on ongoing projects. Completing these small but nagging tasks will give you a sense of accomplishment and free up your mental bandwidth for bigger goals in the New Year. Starting January with a clean slate will allow you to hit the ground running. Your Fresh Start A new year is a chance to realign your priorities, set meaningful goals, and approach your work with renewed focus. By reflecting on the past year, setting actionable goals, decluttering your space, and tying up loose ends, you’ll create the foundation for a successful year ahead. Whether you spread these steps out over a few weeks or tackle them all in one day, the most important thing is to commit to the process. A little effort now can make a big difference in how you start the year—and how you finish it. Here’s to making the most of your fresh start!
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