They Turned 18! Now What??
April 25, 2025
Don't let them leave for college before reading this

If you’re like many of my clients, this season brings a new chapter—one that’s marked by Target runs, dorm room checklists, and the bittersweet feeling of watching your son or daughter pack up and head off to college.
It’s exciting. It’s nerve-wracking. And yes, you’ll worry—because that’s what good parents do. You’ll wonder if they’re eating enough vegetables, if they’re studying more than they’re streaming Netflix, and if they’re sleeping in beds instead of on beanbags. But while those are normal worries, there’s one major concern that too many parents overlook: what happens if your child has a medical or financial emergency while away at school?
Here’s the kicker: once your child turns 18, the legal rules of parenting change entirely.
They may still be on your insurance plan. You may still be footing the tuition bill (and the Uber Eats account). But in the eyes of the law, they are now an adult—and that means you are no longer automatically entitled to know what’s going on in their life. Especially when it comes to their health and finances.
Let me paint you a picture…
The College Emergency That No One Warned You About
Your child ends up in the emergency room after a bike accident on campus. You get a call from a friend or roommate, and you rush to call the hospital to find out more.
What do you hear?
“I’m sorry, we can’t release any information about that patient.”
It doesn’t matter that you’re the parent. It doesn’t matter that you’re paying the bills. The HIPAA law—a well-meaning federal law that protects patient privacy—forbids doctors from sharing any medical information about your adult child without their explicit consent.
Even in an emergency. Even if your child is unconscious. Even if they need life-saving decisions made on their behalf.
The Simple Solution Every Parent Should Have in Place
Now, I’m not here to scare you—I’m here to prepare you. Because the solution is simple, inexpensive, and critically important. Every college-bound student should have the following three documents in place before they ever leave home:
HIPAA Release Authorization
This gives you legal permission to receive medical information about your child in case of an emergency.
Designation of Health Care Surrogate (also known as a Medical Power of Attorney)
This allows you to make medical decisions on their behalf if they are unable to.
Durable Power of Attorney
This enables you to help manage your child’s finances—whether that’s accessing their bank account, helping with tuition payments, or resolving issues with their landlord.
These documents put you back in the role of trusted decision-maker—not because you’re controlling, but because you care.
What’s a Parent to Do? Let’s Talk.
If you’re reading this and feeling that familiar parental tug—that urge to do something smart for your kid’s future—you’re in the right place.
I’ve created a free, easy-to-follow guide that walks you through what these documents are, why they matter, and how to get started. You’ll find the QR code below—scan it and download the guide in under a minute.
And if you’re ready to take the next step? Call my office. We’ll walk you through the process and help you get everything in place before your young scholar heads off to conquer the world.
Because you may not be able to control how many classes they skip or whether they eat enough protein, but you can make sure that if the worst happens, you’re ready.
Warm regards,
Joseph Michael Dickerson
Board-Certified Estate Planner
The J.M. Dickerson Law Firm
P.S. Got more than one child heading to college? Let’s get a family plan in place. This isn’t one of those “maybe someday” items. It’s an easy win for your peace of mind today. Let’s get it done.

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As the end of the year approaches, it’s easy to feel the weight of unfinished tasks and the hustle of the holiday season. Between wrapping up work projects, preparing for family gatherings, and making plans for the future, this time of year can feel overwhelming. But amidst the busyness lies a valuable opportunity—the chance to press reset and prepare for a fresh start. The New Year offers a clean slate, making it the perfect time to reflect, reorganize, and refocus your goals. By dedicating some time to the right activities now, you can set yourself up for success in the months ahead. Here are four key steps to help you start the New Year on solid footing. Step 1: Reflect on the Past Year As the calendar flips to a new year, many of us naturally find ourselves looking back at the previous 12 months. This is the perfect moment to assess your professional and personal accomplishments, challenges, and growth. Ask yourself: • What were my biggest successes this year? • What goals did I miss, and why? • What strategies or habits worked well for me? • Where can I improve moving forward? Reflection isn’t just about identifying wins and losses; it’s about understanding the “why” behind them. Seek feedback from colleagues, mentors, or trusted peers to gain new perspectives. The more honest and thorough your evaluation, the more valuable it will be as a foundation for future planning. Step 2: Create a Game Plan for the Year Ahead Reflection is only the beginning. To make real progress, you need a clear and actionable plan for the year ahead. Start by defining your big-picture goal for the next 12 months. What’s the most important outcome you want to achieve? Once you have that, break it down into smaller, measurable objectives. For example, if your goal is to expand your business, your smaller objectives might include increasing marketing efforts, attending networking events, or launching a new service. Outline the steps needed to achieve each objective and set realistic timelines for completion. Revisit your goals regularly—at least quarterly—to ensure you’re staying on track or to adjust for any changes in your circumstances. Flexibility is key to maintaining momentum throughout the year. Step 3: Declutter Your Inbox An overflowing email inbox can be a constant source of low-grade stress. Ending the year with a streamlined and organized inbox can give you a fresh sense of control as you head into January. Here’s how to tackle it: • Respond immediately to any urgent or unresolved messages. • Delete emails that are no longer relevant. • Unsubscribe from newsletters or mailing lists you no longer find useful. • Create folders and filters to better organize incoming messages moving forward. To keep your inbox manageable, schedule regular cleanups throughout the year. Whether monthly or quarterly, these maintenance sessions will prevent clutter from building up again. Step 4: Knock Out Small Tasks The small, unfinished tasks lingering on your to-do list can be more draining than you realize. Use this time to cross off as many as possible before the New Year begins. • File paperwork that’s been piling up. • Respond to emails you’ve been avoiding. • Wrap up loose ends on ongoing projects. Completing these small but nagging tasks will give you a sense of accomplishment and free up your mental bandwidth for bigger goals in the New Year. Starting January with a clean slate will allow you to hit the ground running. Your Fresh Start A new year is a chance to realign your priorities, set meaningful goals, and approach your work with renewed focus. By reflecting on the past year, setting actionable goals, decluttering your space, and tying up loose ends, you’ll create the foundation for a successful year ahead. Whether you spread these steps out over a few weeks or tackle them all in one day, the most important thing is to commit to the process. A little effort now can make a big difference in how you start the year—and how you finish it. Here’s to making the most of your fresh start!