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The 3 things your college student can’t leave home without

Eventually we will be living a “new normal” and even preparing to send your son or daughter to college will be something we will resume to do once the stages of quarantine have passes. Sending your child to college can be one of the most exciting, and nervous times for a parent. On top of our current Covid concerns, you’ll worry whether they will eat well, study enough, and get enough rest. You’ll probably both busy with last-minute shopping, packing and worrying about roommates.  While you can’t help these everyday concerns, you can prepare for the major ones. 

Here’s one more thing you should do as you prepare for the big separation: Ask your young adult to sign a Durable Power of Attorney, a Designation of Health Care Surrogate and a HIPAA Release.

These estate planning documents, more commonly associated with older folks, are essential for younger people too. Without them, in most states parents don’t have the authority to make health care decisions or manage money for their kids once they turn 18—even if they are paying the tuition, still have those kids on their health insurance plans and claim them as dependents on their tax returns. That means if a young adult is in an accident and becomes disabled, even temporarily, a parent might need court approval to act on his or her behalf. Remember, once your child turns 18, it is illegal for a doctor to discuss their medical conditions with you—even during a life-threatening emergency. The risk is real. Accidents are the leading cause of death for young adults, and a quarter-million Americans between 18 and 25 are hospitalized with nonlethal injuries each year. But it doesn’t take something nearly that drastic for parents to need to act on a child’s behalf. I know of a situation that involved a then sophomore at Texas State, who we will name Thomas. After traveling to Mexico for spring break, Thomas developed a severe intestinal bug that landed him in the college infirmary. Thomas’s father rushed to visit him there, only to find that doctors refused to discuss his son’s condition, citing privacy concerns. After what sometimes seems like endless years spent raising a child, their adulthood—and all the rights that go with it—may creep up suddenly. And much as you hope you’ve prepared them to take care of themselves, you may still be their fallback for emergencies. Getting the necessary authority to play that role can be a rite of passage and a learning experience for both parent and child. Fortunately, Thomas promptly recovered. But the temporary scare to his concerned parents could have been avoided if he had signed a Designation of Health Care Surrogate before he went off to college. This document, also called a health care agent or health care power of attorney, authorizes someone to make medical decisions on your behalf. And legally, it also automatically gives that agent access to your medical records. In the same document, or a separate one called the living will, you can express your preferences about end-of-life care. Not thinking about this before his son went away to school, Thomas’s father, was a case of the cobbler’s children going barefoot, since he is a trusts and estates lawyer and routinely handles these matters for clients. The next time his son came home for vacation, he had not just a health care proxy, but also a durable power of attorney, ready for him to sign. While the former deals with medical decisions, the latter appoints a trusted family member, friend or adviser as an agent to act on your behalf, if need be, in a variety of financial and legal matters. The power of attorney may be effective from the moment your child signs it or you can specify that it be activated by a specific event—for instance, if he or she becomes incompetent. The problem with this approach, known as a springing power, is that someone must decide when an individual has reached that state. Traditionally, this has required a medical opinion. Though the parent is usually the best person to put in charge of both medical and legal matters, when relationships are strained, you child might appoint another trusted adult, such as an aunt, uncle or older sibling, rather than the parent, as the agent. It’s also important to name an alternate in case, if and when the time comes, your child’s first choice is unable or unwilling to serve. Many people are wary of signing a power of attorney, since it gives unbridled authority to an agent. While the elderly tend to be concerned (sometimes with good reason), about people stealing their money, for college students there is another risk: that their parents will be able to find out their grades. Though parents often pay for tuition, they are not parties to the agreement between student and school. Rules vary from one institution to the next, but many schools will not disclose grades without a student’s permission. A power of attorney, which gives an agent the right to enter into, renegotiate or amend contracts, can also be used to get access to the transcript. But you don’t have to be a helicopter parent to need a power of attorney. It can be useful in a variety of situations that can arise when children go overseas, either for a gap year or to study. In case of an emergency, having a power of attorney makes it easier to contact the local embassy or wire money from a child’s bank account, for example. It could also come in handy if a parent needs to sign a legal document, such as a lease, in the child’s absence. How can you get children to sign these documents, especially if they are still at the stage of thinking Mom and Dad are clueless about practically everything? Gentle persuasion works best. Another possibility is to make it a condition of your paying the tuition or buying your child a car—if that’s in the offing. Another tack is to ask a board-certified estate planning lawyer to prepare a back-to-school package, meet briefly with you and your child and explain the significance of the documents. Compared with other back-to-school expenditures, the few hundred dollars you might pay for this service could turn out to be a very good investment.

A Durable Power of Attorney, a Designation of Health Care Surrogate and a HIPAA Release will allow you to continue to be a parent to your young adult.

These important documents will ensure that if your child is hospitalized, you will not be left out not knowing what is going on. Your child’s doctor will be able to talk with you and you’ll be able to make decisions on what type of treatment should be provided. Without the Health Care Surrogacy, a guardian may have to be appointed by the court to make decisions if your child is unable to do so themselves. A Durable Power of Attorney (or financial power of attorney) will allow parents to manage their child’s finances.

Contact us you would like to find out more about being prepared with these documents.

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